I think Zari knows what she is doing, and its people who don’t see far who don’t understand her moves. This lady is not a teenager who is looking to have fun with boyfriends. She has experiences and life has taught her many lessons. She has had money whether through her own efforts or through her ex (it doesn’t matter) and she has realized that money without happiness causes depression. She has met this guy who is showing her love and she has fallen for it. I understand her situation.

People, especially women keep on criticizing her that she is ignoring her children and chases Diamond’s love. The lady has tried to explain to you that she has a schedule which runs between her and the father of her children to take care of the kids. No one knows that it was dads time to have the kids because we don’t know the family plans, and still people keep on criticizing her for not being at her child’s birthday. what ever the case, I am sure Zari loves her kids as any mother does to her children.

What I would like my fellow ladies who know how to point finger to others is that Zari is a person like any of her children. She is a mother yes, but she has her needs. We as mothers have lives to live too. Having children doesn’t mean our lives stop. Zari needs love, care and to know that someone cares for her. Her children definitely love her as a mother but they will not satisfy her with other needs. Lets agree also that Zari has been flying back and forth from Tanzania to SA to be with her children. To me she has been doing very well. How many women live in the same house with their children 24/7 and they end up burning their hands just because they steal a penny? how many are in the same house everyday with their kids but they spend so much time doing their own stuff that even kids don’t know whether mom is around or not? yes we all need to spend time with our children but that does not mean that those who spend more time they love them more. What we do when we are with our children matters more. Make sure that the time you spend with your children creates memories they will never forget. That is what we need. But if you are lucky to spend more time with your kids, thank God, utilize it well but don’t think other mothers who for one reason or another don’t spend the same time are not as loving to their children as you are.

Zari knows that she needs to survive and she will not continue to depend on child support or some businesses that she created with her ex. She is trying to build her life after it crashed. She is looking for new friends, new love, new networks, new family and the list goes on…I have done my own research and I have just realized that this lady is just the victim of the male dominant society in Africa. WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO STICK TO THEIR MARRIAGES BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN AND LISTEN TO THEIR HUSBANDS, WHETHER THEY CHEAT, DONT LOVE YOU ANYMORE OR EVEN KILL YOU IT’S OK. really? This is what Zari was expected to do. Just because you have children then you don’t have a choice? jamani, have you seen those pictures of women who are killed by their husbands in Tanzania for relationship reasons? Most of those women believed that they had to stay because if they leave their husbands, the society will not understand them. Zari doesn’t know me and I don’t know her. I just read about her in blogs, but every time I read some ladies comments it pains me to see that some women don’t understand what other women are going or have gone through. Just know that you cannot judge anybody unless you put yourself in her shoes.

Breaking up with someone you had children with is not easy, especially when that someone has big money like her EX. There must be a good reason why the poor lady decided to end up that relationship. As for now, lets give her time to settle. You cannot expect her to have the same schedule she used to have with her kids after beginning a new relationship. She will definitely one day settle down and know how to balance everything. As regards to Wema I think she was in deep love with Diamond but had positive or negative influence from her mom to stop seeing him, and the reason behind was like she could get a better person than him and that he was just using her. Now that being the situation, she chose to end the relationship. I think it is fair to not blame Zari or hate her because she has nothing to do with the breaking of Wema and Diamonds relationship. Did she make the right choice to break up with him? we don’t know, but time will tell. Lets be patient and watch…………..……..

Mother’s Day is around the corner and this message came at the right time!! Johanna HK was responding to some Tanzanian bloggers and women who negatively criticized Zari’s a.k.a The Bosslady’s motherhood / parenting style!!