Regrann from @open_kitchen2014 - Mwanamke anayejiamini she looks so sexy and classy mwanamke anayetambua thamani yake always anajiheshimu na anasimamia kile anachokiamini na hata mume wake atamuheshimu daima milele kwasababu anajua umuhimu wake na mchango wake katika familia ? ? 
Lakini pia heshima hiyo na kujiamini huko hakuji kwa urahisi kwasababu ni kitu ambacho anajengewa toka akiwa mdogo na wazazi (Mwenyezi Mungu awarehemu wazazi wangu ) lakini namshukuru sana mama yangu kwa kunilea na kunifundisha what it means kuwa mwanamke na sio mwanamke tu bali mwanamke anayejiamini
Kila siku alikuwa anatufundisha ukijua kufanya kazi na kusimamia familia basi ujue kamwe hakuna atakaye kuangusha kirahisi utaheshimika kuanzia na wadogo zako mpaka watu wazima kila utakapo ingia mahali kila mtu atatambua uwepo wako na atakupa heshima yako iwe ni nyumbani kwako ,kazini kwako,au popote pale ?
? Malezi na misingi mizuri ya maisha ndio zawadi bora kabisa ambayo mama anaweza kumpa mtoto
Ukimpenda sana mtoto wako lakini ukashindwa kumlea katika misingi mizuri na kumwongoza aweze kujua nini maana ya kujiheshimu ,kukuheshimu ,na kuheshimika ni sawa na kupaka chokaa kwenye nyumba ya nyasi TAFAKARI ?
MWANAMKE USIPOJITAMBUA NA KUJIELEWA UKAJIAMINI UKAWA NA MSIMAMO BASI UJUE UTATUMIKA KILA SIKU NA KILA MTU KAMA KOPO LA CHOO CHA KULIPIA ??????? - #regrann
Category Archives: Parenthood
Kwenye hili la Makonda na ‘watelekezwa’…….!
Regrann from @mutwiba - MJADALA
Kwa wale wenye uelewa wa maswali yajayo naomba tusaidiane kuyatafakari na naamini tutapata majibu ama maswali zaidi yatakayohitaji ama kuleta majibu zaidi. 
Kwenye hili la Makonda na 'watelekezwa' nimejiuliza baadhi ya maswali. Na kwa kuwa penye wengi haliharibiki neno, wacha niulize hapa ili ukiweza jibu lolote kati ya maswali haya.
MJADALA WA HESHIMA UTATHAMINIWA
1: Hili la wanawake kutelekezwa na watoto wao linatokea Dar tu ama hata mikoani lipo?
2: Wanaotajwa Dar wakikimbilia mikoani ambako mpango ama mkakati huu haupo, watasakwa ama? Na watakaotajwa kwa chuki na kuharibiwa mahusiano yao ya sasa watafidiwa?
3: Hili la kuwataja wanaume wanaoaminika kutelekeza watoto linatendeka kisheria ama ni ubunifu wa mkuu wa mkoa? Kama ni kwa mujibu wa sheria, si lifanyike nchi nzima? Kama ni ubunifu wa Mkuu wa Mkoa, akiacha ama kuachishwa kazi na ubunifu wake usio katika maandiko unakuwa umefia hapo?
4: Hudhani kwamba ingekuwa vema kuandaa workshop ama hata matangazo ya radio ya kuwafunza sheria za ndoa / mahusiano wanawake waliotelekezwa na wanaotaka kuingia kwenye mahusiano?
5: Mhe. Mkuu wa Mkoa akishakutana nao, wakishawataja watu waliowatelekeza, atawatatulia tatizo lao ama atawaelekeza Mahakamani ambako sheria ambazo zipo tayari zinastahili kuchukua mkondo wake?
6: kilichoonekana juzi ni kipi? (i) wanawake waliotelekezwa? (ii) wanaume waliotelekeza? (iii) mfumo wa sheria usiotenda haki kwa wanawake? (iv) wanawake wasiojua haki zao ambazo walistahili kuzisaka na kuzipata kabla ya kumfikia Mkuu wa Mkoa?
Yaani kilichodhihirika leo ni jambo la kuihurumia jamii yetu kwa kutojua ama kupuuza sheria
Na kwa kuwa na imani katika njia isiyotufikisha tunakotakiwa kwenda.
My two cents.
Na natunza haki ya kukosea na kukosolewa.
Mzee wa Changamoto - #regrann
Joyce Kiria: 09/04/2018 ni siku ya kihistoria ya kutua mzigo huo mkubwa mno wa kulea familia peke yetu
Regrann from @joycekiriasuperwoman – Nipo na Kamanda wa Vita! Shujaa acha kabisa! Mpambanaji wa ukweli @paulmakonda • 
Ni fursa kubwa kwetu Wanawake wa Taifa hili tunaoteseka kutunza familia peke yetu, 09/04/2018 ni siku ya kihistoria ya kutua mzigo huo mkubwa mno wa kulea familia peke yetu, hatimae tumepewa fursa ya kupaza sauti zetu kwa Serikali yetu.
Binafsi naamini Hii ndo siku ya kusababisha mabadiliko makubwa ya sheria inayosimamia malezi ya watoto kuanza rasmi mchakato wa mabadiliko, na kuweza kuleta sheria kali kama za nchi za marekani.
Tatizo la baadhi ya wababa kukimbia majukumu ni kubwa mnooo ninahitaji viongozi wenye ushawishi kama hawa watusemee! •
Kwa kweli Asante zangu nyingi kwa shujaaa wetu mpambanaji sana Mkuu wetu wa mkoa @paulmakonda kwa kutuona wanawake wa Taifa hili tunavyoteseka na mzigo wa kulea familia peke yetu ilihali wababa wapo ???? TUMECHOKAAAAAAAAA • – #regrann
Open_Kitchen2014: lazima ifike mahali tuelewe kuwa fadhila za watoto wetu ni baraka hatutakiwi kuwafanya watoto wetu ndio mtaji wetu
Regrann from @open_kitchen2014 - Wanawake , wasichana , wamama tunanapigana usiku na mchana , tunavumilia mengi na mengi ni siri yetu kwasababu tunataka the best kwa ajili ya watoto wetu nguvu zetu jasho letu , vyote ni kwa ajili ya watoto wetu .
Ila wamama......lazima ifike mahali tuelewe kuwa fadhila za watoto wetu ni baraka hatutakiwi kuwafanya watoto wetu ndio mtaji wetu au watoto wetu ndio mahali tulipofanya uwekezaji basi kila kitu mimi mama yako nililala nje kwasababu yako , mimi mama yako nilipigwa nikavumilia kwasababu yako , mimi mama yako niliuza mali nikusomeshe , mimi mama yako sijui nilibeba mimba nikateseka kushinda wa mama wote duniani kwa sababu yako ?????(kicheko sunna) ..kila mama na story yake ilimradi ajenge sympathy kwa mtoto wake .
.la hasha mtoto lazima umpe freedom yake wewe kama mama yes umeteseka , yes umepitia wakati mgumu ,yes umepambana usiku kucha but hiyo ndio nature ya mama ndio maana mama siku zote amebarikiwa sana so leo tusiwatese watoto wetu na kuwanyima uhuru wao furaha yao just because wewe mama unataka mtoto wako awe a certain way asome kile ambacho kilikuwa dream yako inafika mahali mpaka mama unataka mtoto wako kuoa au kuolewa na yule wewe unayemwona ndio perfect kwako mwenzangu wamama siku hizi tumegeuka kuwa manabiii pia ???? .
Tumebarikiwa kuwa wamama watoto wetu tunatakiwa kuwasomesha , na kuwaongoza katika misingi bora but watoto wetu sio vitega uchumi , watoto wetu lazima wawe na maamuzi yao hata kama ni maamuzi yasiyokufurahisha kama mzazi all we need to do ni kuwa guide na kuwaelekeza kuwa the choice has consequences hizi so yeye ataamua which way to go but not to condem or command them to do wewe mama unavyotaka au unavyotarajia
Tunawapoteza watoto wetu simply because tunawanyima UHURU WAO MOTHERS WE MUST LEARN TO LET GO AND STOP IMPOSING SO MUCH FEAR AND SADNESS INTO OUR CHILDREN
BECAUSE THIS AFFECTS THEM SO MUCH WANAJIONA KAMA WANADENI KUBWA SANA TOWARDS MAKING US HAPPY WHICH IS NOT RIGHT . .AS MOTHER'S WE ARE BLESSED LET'S CARRY OUR BLESSINGS IN A POSITIVE WAY .
. .. - #regrann
Watoto wanahitaji malezi ya mzazi! Mali na pesa siyo malezi!
Wahenga walisema kulea mimba si kazi kazi kulea mwana! Ukiwa mjamzito kike kiumbe ulichobeba hata kama hutaki kikuwe kitakuwa tu! Sasa ni hiyari yako kula vizuri na kujijali ili uzae kiumbe chenye afya bora na salama. Mama uliyebeba hicho kiumbe ni jukumu lako kutafakari matendo na tabia zako wakati wa ujauzito huo kwani huyo mtoto anauwezekano mkubwa sana wa kuhakisi tabia zako akiwa tumboni mwako! Huo ni mtihani wa kwanza katika malezi ya mtoto! Jana nilisoma post ya Jackie ikanikumbusha mtihani wa pili katika malezi ya mtoto ambapo wazazi wengi huwa wanafeli! Pia ikanikumbusha kuhusu wazazi fulani ambao wapo kwenye reality show fulani inaitwa “Married to Medicine” wote ni madaktari na mama anaumizwa na kitendo cha wao kuwa busy na kazi kiasi kwamba wanakuwa hawana nafasi ya kukaa na watoto zao! Napia ikanikumbusha interview ya Naomi Campbell aliyofanyaga na Oprah Winfrey mwaka 2010 ambapo Naomi alisema kuwa siku zote amejisikia mpweke toka akiwa mdogo kwani wazazi wake wahakuwa nae karibu. Mama yake Naomi yeye aliamini kuwa anafanya kitu kizuri kufanya kazi sana ili kuweza kumpatia mtoto wake vitu vizuri, kusoma shule za private n.k ………. Soma na tazama video hapo chini ?
@Regranned from @j_n_mengi – Dear parents, I know you’re busy working hard to feed and raise your kids but please remember that your physical presence is very important to your child. You need to invest more than money to your child, they need to talk to you, they need your hugs and reassurance and most importantly they need you to teach them to be good human beings.”
Pesa na mali ni vizuri kama ukiwawekea watoto wakawa navyo kwani hilo ni jukumu lako kama mzazi! Kumbuka “Pesa na mali ni urithi mtu apataye kutoka kwa babaye” hayo ni maandiko ya Biblia siyo mimi! Lakini kabla ya kuwapa hizo pesa na mali ni vyema ukawafundisha jinsi ya kupata hizo pesa na mali ili nao waweze fundisha watoto zao! Hata hivyo, kabla ya kuwafundisha jinsi ya kutafuta pesa na mali watoto wanatakiwa kufundiswa maadili!
Watoto wanatakiwa kuonyeshwa upendo iliwajifunze kwa matendo, watoto wanatakiwa kufundishwa elimu ya Mbingu kabla hujampa elimu ya duniani! Kwamfano, kabla ya kumfundisha mtoto wako kuhesabu embu hakikisha anajua kusali au kusema sala ya Bwana kwanza! Mfano mwingine, kabla hujamfundisha mtoto wako kusema “naomba” mfundishe kushukuru kwa kila kitu anachopewa, hakikisha anajua kusema “asante” kwanza kabla ya kusema “naomba”!
Kumvalisha mtoto wako nguo za designer maharufu siyo malezi! Surely, itamfanya aonekane vizuri lakini haita msaidia kuwa kiumbe bora! Kumlaza mtoto wako kwenye nyumba ya mamilioni ni vizuri lakini haita mpa confidence au kuacha kuwa muongo na mwizi! Watoto wanahitaji malezi ya wazazi! Pesa na mali siyo malezi!!
My son enjoying his New Year breakfast!
Yaas! That is my son! Enjoying his New Year breakfast in Nairobi. At age 2 1/2 he got all his table manners in place ?? way to go son! Wasichana itabidi wajipange sana tu! Kama hawakufunzwa ustarabu na mama zao wakwende huko hatuwataki sisi ?? We are raising a gentleman right here I hope someone is raising a Queen for him ?? maana Mimi mama mkwe nitamkagua kabla hajaingia ndani ya nyumba ya mwanangu ??? chezea mama mkwe wa dotcom!
Kama tunataka tuondoe unyanjasaji na ukiritimba kwa wanawake inabidi wakina mama muwe teyari kulea vijana wenu katika maadili, na mambo yanayofaa! Na mambo hayo huanzia katika umri huu! Usisubiri akifika sijui miaka 6 that is way too late! Pia watoto wakike muwafunze tabia njema, kujithamini, good touch and bad touch mara tu wanapojua kuongea na kutembea! Usingoje mtoto sijui aote maziwa ndio unaanza "kubwabwaja"!! Kama tunataka ukombozi wa mtoto wa kike na mabadiliko ya tabia za wanaume wa Kiafrika basi wakina mama lazima mkubali kubadilisha tabia ya malezi yale ya kizamani kuwa mtoto wa kiume ni "King" na mtoto wa kike ni "servant"!! Kuwa mtoto wakiume haitaji kupewa malezi yenye maadili ya jinsi ya kuwa kaka, baba, mume, na raia mwema isipokuwa toto wa kike tu! Yeye ndiyo anatakiwe afunzwe kuwa dada mwema, mama mzuri, mke bora, na raia mwema, swali linakuja awe mwema kwa nani?!! Mwaume mbakaji? Au mwanaume katili? Au a cold-hearted killer? Au mwanaume mnyanyasaji asiye hata na chembe chembe ya hofu ya Mungu?!! Mothers I'm raising my gentleman because I don't want him to be part of that ugly statistic!!What about you!! .........Happy New Year everybody!
Mlee mtoto katika njia impasayo!
Kwanza naomba mniwie radhi wapendwa wangu ambao ni Waislam. Mimi ni Mkristo hiyo mambo mengi nikiongea nita refer to the Holy Bible kwani hicho ndicho kitabu nakijua na pia sipo hapa kwaajili ya dini hivyo sitokaa ni compare Quran na Bible!
Sasa Biblia katika kitabu kile cha Mithali 22:6 inasema mlee mtoto katika njia impasayo naye hataiacha hata atakapokuwa mzee! Hizi picha za birthday ya Nillan ambazo zinaonyesha wako mezani wakila chakula na kunywa zimenifanya nikumbuke hilo fungu la Mithali 22:6!
Hivi wazazi wangapi mnawalea watoto wenu kwa kuwafundisha kuwa chakula ni kitu cha kuheshimiwa hivyo ukila lazima uwe na nidhamu?! Kuwa hupaswi kutembea huku unakula kama mkimbizi au mtu aliye vitani!! Unamfunza mtoto kuwa ni lazima ukae chini / mezani wakati wa kula napia ni marufuku kuongea nachakula mdomoni!!
Kama wewe ni mzazi unaye ishi katika mazingira mazuri na ungependa mtoto wako aende mbali zaidi ya hapo ulipo wewe, je umemwandaa mtoto wako kukabiliana na mazingira hayo?! Kwamfano, ungependa mtoto wako awe na uwezo wa kwenda naye kwenye 5* hotel nakula chakula mbele za watu nilazima umfunze mwanao kukaa mezani wakati wakula na atulie mpaka atakapo maliza chakula. Nilazima umfunze mtoto kutumia visu, uma, na kijiko tena umfunze mara kwa mara ili azoee kuvitumia kama Zari alivyofanya kwa watoto wake. Hao watoto kukaa mezani kwa utulivu hivyo nakula kwa ustarabu si kitu ambacho wamefanya mara moja, hapana! Hao watakuwa wamefunzwa na wamezoea! Ni malezi mazuri sana haswa kwa karne hii ya 21 ambapo dunia imekuwa kama kijiji huwezi jua ni wapi na nani mwanao atakutana naye hivyo lazima kujua jinsi ya kumudu mazingira!
Nilipokua nyumbani Tanzania mwanzoni mwa mwaka huu, watoto wake mdogo wangu walikuja kunitembelea. Sasa wakati wakula mie nikamwambia dada wa kazi kuwa haina haja ya kuweka chakula mezani aweke mkeka tukae chini tule! Tuliokulia kwenye mikeka utatujua tu ??? mwe! Kwani hao watoto waliweza kula?! Mara namuona yule mdogo anaangaika kuvuta kiti karibu na mkeka na mkubwa wa kike kalalia tumbo huku akijaribu kula ?? Nikawa nashanga, ndio mama yao akasema unajua wanangu hawajui kula huku wakiwa wamekaa kwenye mkeka!! Akasema "Wakenya hao wanajua kula ni mezani tu" ?? mbona yalinishuka ikabidi tuhamishie chakula mezani, basi wakawa na amani wakala kwa furaha!
Mdogo wangu alipoona hizi picha za Tiffah akanitumia na kusema kama mtoto wake angepiga picha hiyo ambayo ameshikilia glass ya juice baada ya picha za birthday ya Nillan kutoka basi baadhi ya watu angefikiri kuwa ameiga kumbe hivyo ndivyo alivyo walea watoto wake!...... Wazazi embu achaneni na kuwapa watoto glass za plastic kwanza zinaleta Cancer ?? honestly, bora umpe mtoto kikombe cha bati kuliko plastic! Nunua zile glass ngumu mfundishe mtoto kushika na kutumia bila kuvunja ili siku ukiwanae 5* hotel upati shida kwani kazoea! #Mlee mtoto katika njia impasayo naye hataiacha hata atakapokuwa mzee!! ""* Picha zote za Tiffah nimezitoa kwa Instagram page ya princess_Tiffah***
Hakuna “bibi kizee” anaye weza kukunja miguu namna hii!
Chuki, ubaguzi, na upendo mtoto ufundishwa na wazazi wake!
Chuki na ubaguzi mtoto ufunzwa na wazazi wake kama ilivyo upendo! Mtoto anazaliwa na kichwa che ubongo mtupu na safi! Sasa wazazi na walezi wa hawa watoto ndio inategemea watajaza huo ubongo wa huyo mtoto na vitu gani! ........Nisawa na elimu kuhusu Mungu, mtoto hawezi jua umuhimu wa kuabudu na kumcha Mungu kama wazazi na walezi wake hawakumfundisha na kumuonyesha kwa vitendo kuwa kuna Mungu anaye stahili kuheshimiwa na kuabudiwa! Au utakuta Mzazi anamwambia mtoto wake hiyo nguo mbaya mpe fulani (ana taja jina la mtoto mwingine) hivyo mtoto anakua akijua kuwa kama kitu kibaya au kimezeeka ndio unagawa kwa wengine! Ambapo ni makosa makubwa sana! Mzazi mfunze mtoto wako kupenda watu wote wa rangi zote bila kujali kipato chao cha kiuchumi!
Tamera amenifanya nijisikie kuolewa na mzungu ??? I’m curious to see how my baby will look like ??
Malia Obama ndani ya “hot topics”!
Ule usemi uliotumika sana na wahenga wetu kuwa “mtoto umleavyo ndivyo ukuavyo” unaweza usilete maana sana katika kulewa watoto wa karne hii ya 21! Hivi karibuni kama wiki na siku kadhaa zilizopita binti wa Mstahafu Rais Baraka Obama, ajulikanae kama Malia Obama alikutwa akibusiana na mwanaume ambaye aliaminika kuwa ni boyfriend wake katika viwanja vya chuo kikuu cha Harvard university na pia alionekana akivuta sigara. Tazama kwenye hii video kuanzia dakika ya 22.50 kama inavyoelezewa na gwiji wa “hot topics” Wendy Williams ?
Sipati picha Michelle Obama alikasirikaje, unaweza zimia bila “kizimio” ?? Halafu sasa kutokana na sheria za huku Malia Obama anatambulika kama mtu mzima ambaye anaweza fanya maamuzi yake binafsi na wazazi wanatakiwa kuyaheshimu! Najua hata Africa ukishafika 18+ unatambulika wewe ni mtu mzima kwenye karatasi za serikali lakini kiuhalisia wazazi wetu wengi bado wanakuwa na mamlaka juu yetu na kutufanyia maamuzi mengi juu yetu. Ni mfumo wa tamaduni zetu ambao unafanya watu wengi kutokuwa na mawazo huru na kufanya maamuzi ambayo yanampendeza yeye na kwafaida yake kwanza. Funguo za furaha zetu zipo mikononi mwa watu kama wazazi, marafiki, na jamii na ndio maana wengi ni wanafiki na waongo kupita kiasi! 
Lakini vile vile lazima tukubaliane kuwa kila familia lazima iwe na identity yake! Kila mtu anazaliwa tofauti lakini kama familia lazima muwe na kitu kimoja ambacho watu watajua na kuwatambua nacho. Hivyo sishangai kwanini Michelle na Baraka wamekasirishwa na kitendo hicho. ……..Mungu atusaidie sisi ambao tunataka kuzaa na wale ambao wanalea katika karne hii ya 21 kwani changamoto ni nyingi mno!
The Teshas’!
What a beautiful picture! The Teshas’ katika ubora wao! Wamependeza sana! ❤ It! 
Quote for today:
“Not only the presence of love fed the life of a family but there’s more to it in reality…”~~~~ Unknown
“….but attitude hata punda ako nayo” ~~~Akothee Akothee
haki I cant stand seing people asleep when am already awake by 6.00 am, I go round the house expecting to meet them awake about 8.00am, no way, only to find them fully covered in their warm blankets which they dont even know the prizes, then come to the kitchen and harrass the chef for breakfast at about 11.00 am, while the chef is already preparing for lunch, are this kind of people normal or am the abnormal one, or could I be jelouse that I cant sleep past 6.00 am & some could? am I the one who knows the value of time or am I working too hard and they be working smart under the blankets? call me acomplaining molecule, but this generation is lost period ?? I like the way my kids look at me with bad eyes when I knock on their doors ???, but attitude hata punda ako nayo , utaamka mama,
Rule no.
1 . No househelps should attend the girls rooms , nor their laundry
2. The cheff is for madboss so if you wake up late , prepare your own breakfast
3. All the rooms in my house shoud ready by 10.00 am , so enda ulale kwa nyasi , ama uende kwako
4. No one comes to the table for lunch with a night dress , please shower before we meet
5. No tv during the day , no one is watching tv unless you are done with your work take it or leave it, you have freedom of migration. You cant migrate to anywhere, my girls follow suit, so any visitor should be at par with us ???? 
Baba Oyoo & Baba Ojwang have no househelps, they do things by themselves yet they should be retiring, with full pockets, you that has no bank account, you are afraid of breaking your nails ?????, come slowly slaying queens, Oyoo and Ojwang knows that after food you take your plate back to the kitchen, so who are you?
Mother and daughter moment!
Beautiful Emelda Mwamanga na binti yake Gabby! So nice! Nivizuri kuwapenda watoto wetu zaidi wakiwa katika umri huu mdogo kwani inawajengea kuamini, kutambua thamani yao wakiwa wakubwa, na kuwa wajasiri! Mtoto yoyote yule anahitaji muongozo, na mipaka lakini pia anahitajika kuwa huru haswa kifikra! Hivyo nijukumu la mzazi kumjenga mtoto wazingira huru ya kujieleza na kutafakari ambayo yana boundaries at the same time!
Mtoto siyo mdoli jamani, mfunze mtoto maadili mema, na jinsi y kuweza kukabiliana na hali zote za maisha. Kwamfano hapo Gabby unaona amefundishwa kupika na kuchanganya vitu kwa kutumia blander hivyo hata akienda kwa watu ambao wanatumia "high tech" kitchen appliances hashangai sana. Napia anajua jinsi ya kutumia mikono yake kushika vitu! Nilishawahi kuona kwa macho yangu mtoto wa miaka nane (8yrs old) bado anatawazwa akimaliza kutumia choo ?? Yani anajisaidia haja kubwa halafu anita dada wa kazi au mama yake amsafishe! And the mother was very OK with it ?? Jamani!! Anyway, those are rich people problems, maskini kama sisi tutayawezea wapi? ??
Life has more to offer than just slaying ~~~~~ Akothee Akothee
Mwanamuziki toka Kenya Akothee Akothee, anasema hivi mjengee msingi mzuri wa maisha mtoto / watoto wako ili wawe na manufaa baadaye katika maisha yao! Maisha yanatoa maana nyingi zaidi ya kujipondoa tu! Mfundishe mwanao kupika, kufanya usafi, kuheshimu watu, jinsi ya kutumia na kutafuta pesa n.k Kuna wazazi wengine wamegeuza watoto kama toys! Yani ni kujiremba na fashion za nguo bila kujua watoto wanatakiwa kupewa muongozo wa maisha na maadili ya kuishi hapa duniani na kubwa zaidi kumjua, kumuheshimu, na kumtunikia Mwenyezi Mungu! ......... embu msome
Build a foundation for your girlchild , so they become usefull in the near future , life has more to offer than just slaying , a woman has to know how to cook, we're learning how to cook ugali & chapati today , @ruebaby @ #teambigfive @fancy_makadia @veshashaillan we set
Mother and son moment!
Wamependeza eeh! Glory na handsome boy wake! Nimependa sana nywele za Glory, zimempendeza mno! Nywele fupi zinawatu wake lazima kichwa kiwe kina "pembe" zilizo lingana lasivyo utachekesha wafiwa ? .......Safi sana .....I ❤ it
Today's Quote : "Men are what their mothers made them."~~~~~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Eti jinsi mama umleavyo mtoto wako wa kiume ndivyo atakavyo kuwa atakapo kuwa baba / mume /mtu mzima! .......Kwa mfano, kama hauto mfundisha thamani ya mwanamke na jinsi ya kuwaheshimu wanawake basi hawezi elewa na akiwa mume / baba hatojua jinsi ya kuishi kwa kumuheshimu mumewe au watoto wake wakike kwani haukumfunza hivyo! Bible inasema mlee mtoto katika njia mpasayo naye hataiacha hata akiwa mzee! Anaweza akajikwaa na kutoka nje ya mafunzo au malezi uliompa lakini hato potea milele kwani lazima nafsi yake itamsuta kuwa haya niyatendayo siyo malezi niliyopewa na mama yangu. Hivyo atarudi katika njia sahii!...............Mbarikiwe sana wamama wote wenye mapenzi mema kwa watoto wenu.
The journey to motherhood: Congratulations Nambua Cassandra!
Wapendwa wasomaji wangu, naomba niwaletee tukio zuri sana la safari ya kuzaliwa mtoto Prince. Ni tukio ambalo limekuwa recorded na shemu ya hiyo video imeonyeshwa na mama mzazi kwa kupitia account yake ya Instagram! ……….. Kwanza nianze kwa kusema hongera sana kwa Nambua kwa kujaliwa mtoto wa kiume! Mungu amlinde akuwe katika kimo na hekima. Akampendeze Mungu kwanza na kisha wanadamu! Karibu katika chama cha wakinamama/ wazazi! Safari hii ni ndefu, yenye changamoto nyingi lakini ni tamu mno! Nasema nitamu mno kwani kama kuna kitu nime furahia kwa 100% na bado naendelea kufurahia with all the pride is being a mother! Lakini kila siku namrudishia sifa na utukufu kwakwe Mungu maana bila yeye hakuna litakalo wezekana! ……..kwakweli nimependa sana hii familia ya Mr and Mrs Mlaki! Nimependa sana their spirit, wako so open and together, inapendeza sana mfano mzuri sana wa kuigwa katika jamii! Hii dunia imeshabadilika (21st century) kuna mambo mengi ya karne 19 inabidi kuyaacha maana siyo tu jamii haiipi nafasi bali pia hata technology haivitaki! Kwa mfano katika karne hii 21 n* kitu cha kawaida kabisa katika jamii zilizo ona mbele mama na kijana wake kuwa ndani ya chumba cha upasuaji wakimuangalia binti/ dada akileta kiumbe kingine duniani! Wakati jambo kama hilo bado linaweza likawa tatizo katika sehemu nyingi za Africa! ……….. Maelezo yote ambayo yameambatana na picha yameandikwa na Nambua ambaye ni mama mzazi wa Prince! #NaniKamaMama. 
Yesterday 4th June, 2017 was one of my big day osn earth. Nimepata experience ya ajabu sana katika maisha yangu. Mwenyenzi Mungu Muumba Mbingu na Nchi amenijalia kujifungua mtoto wa kiume 9.25am South African time. HIYO NI FIRST FOTO ALIPOTOKA TUMBONI KWANGU, ALIPOTOLEWA KAANZA KULIA. Ilikuwa sala yangu kujifungua mtoto wa kwanza DUME. I’M OFFICIALLY A MOTHER. Jana usiku sijalala kabisa nimekaa natoa macho, namshangaa huyu mtoto. Bado siamini kama ni mtoto wangu, namuona stranger, mgeni flani hivi. Na sikujua watoto wanatoka mbali hivi. Heshima kwa wamama wote waliozaa. ??. Napenda kuwashukuru wote waliokuwa na mimi katika hii safari yangu. Nikisema nitaje majina mengi sitamaliza. Surely it was a long trip. My brother @laumlaki huyu ni commando aliingia theatre aka record tukio zima la Cesarean operation na mama yangu @lwisemanka amempokea mjukuu wake. Lord Jesus I give you glory. In Christ I have made it to God be the Glory. Yeremia 29:11 HAKIKA MAWAZO YA BWANA NI MEMA JUU YANGU, Yeremia 33:3…… BWANA AMENIONYESHA MAMBO MAKUBWA MAGUMU NISIOYAJUA.
Hapo niko theatre (operation room) najindaa nimlete mwanangu duniani. Nacheka cheka tu naona wanachelewa……?. Niko na mama na mdogo wangu @laumlaki paparazzi. Hili tukio kwangu ni very historical considering mahala nilipotoka. Nilisema Im going to record kila kitu wakati najifungua niweke ktk dvd. Namshangaa Bwana Yesu na matendo yake makuu juu yangu. Nawashukuru sana MEDICLINIC, SANDTON. Doctors & Nurses are very friendly na makini ktk kazi. Biblia inasema katika torati: Mateso ya mwenye haki ni mengi, lakini BWANA humponya nayo yote.????? Amen. 
My mother @lwisemanka, my mdogo @laumlaki and my photographer ms melody, hawa nilikuwa nao theatre. Walitaka waone ceserean section inavyokuwa, yani kila kitu na wawe wa kwanza to see my baby. Nimewaita mashilawadu wangu.????…….. love you all. Kweli watoto wanatoka mbali sana. Halafu hili zoezi nimelipenda sana la kuingia theatre na familya yako au photographer wako.
Hapo nimetoka kutoa mtoto tumboni naumwa sana, nimezinduka. Koo limekauka kwani niliwekewa oxygen. Yani kuitwa mama aisee ni kazi! Nafundishwa kunyonyesha naona ni adhabu halafu siamini kama nitaitwa mama. Shikamoo mwanamke. Naomba wanaume wawaheshimu wale wanawake waliozaa wakawafanya wakaitwa wababa. Hii experience ni ya ajabu. Wamama shikamooni. Kuanzia leo simgombezi tena mama yangu……. Biblia inasema ZABURI 34:19-21 MATESO YA MWENYE HAKI NI MENGI LAKINI BWANA HUPONYA NAYO YOTE.HUIHIFADHI MIFUPA YAKE 
MY FIRST BORN,UZAO WANGU WA KWANZA…… BWANA MUNGU AKASEMA HAKIKA NITAKUBARIKI NAE AKANIBARIKI NA HUYU KIUMBE KATIKA JINA LA YESU …………… PRINCE THAT HIS NAME.NI PRINCE MTOTO WA MFALME WA WAFALME, JEHOVAH RAPHA. TODAY HE IS ONLY 15DAYS OLD NA AMEANZA TO POZI TAJIRI MTOTO. I LOVE YOU MY SON. I LOVE YOU. HUYU KIUMBE NIMEMJUA SIKU 15 ZILIZOPITA ILA NAMPENDA KULIKO VIUMBE VYOTE DUNIANI…….???? MY LIFE HAS CHANGED 100%. #nambuacassandra @baby.mix.baby. 
Me and My baby PRINCE that his name (tajiri mtoto)…… hapo yuko 12days old????. Na nilipokuwa natafakari?? siku zangu duniani, Nae Mungu akasema na mimi akaninong’oneza MWANANGU NEEMA YANGU YATOSHA JUU YAKO. MGHH SIKUAMINI……. ILA LEO NIMEIONA NEEMA YAKE KWA KUNIZAWADIA MTOTO WA KIUME SAWASAWA NA HAJA YA MOYO WANGU. (Heart desires) ??? Neno la Mungu linasema (Torati) Zaburi 37:4-6 Nawe utajifurahisha kwa BWANA. Naye atakupa haja za moyo wako. Umkabidhi BWANA njia yako, Pia umtumaini, naye atafanya. Ataitokeza haki yako kama nuru. Na hukumu yako kama adhuhuri……. #nambuacassandra #huumchezohauhitajihasira
***HONGERA SANA NAMBUA CASSANDRA***
Step-Dads, Boyfriends and Other REAL Dads Take One For the Team
Bado tupo kwenye moment au mwezi wa kusherekea na kuwaenzi baba zetu! Baba si yule aliye kuzaa na kukubwaga bila kujua nini kinaendelea kwenye maisha yako au hata kama yupo hachukulii swala la malezi yako kama jambo muhimu katika majukumu yake! Ili uwe baba kamili lazima ushiriki katika malezi ya mtoto kwani hayo ndiyo yatakayo mfanya awe kiumbe kilicho kamilika hapa duniani. Mtoto si kumpa pesa tu! Mtoto anatakiwa kufunzwa manners na life values ili aweze kuishi vyema hapa duniani!…….Sasa kuna wanaume wengi ambao wanalea watoto wa wanaume wengine kwa viwango ambavyo huwenda hata baba zao halisi wasingeweza kufanya hivyo lakini inatokea watoto au jamii haitambui mchango wao kitu ambacho kinasikitisha sana! Hii article imeandikwa na blogger mmoja aishie Marekani (Sarah Maizes) ambaye ni a single mama na watoto wake kwa 100% wamelela na mwanaume mwingine ambaye si baba yao mzazi. Lakini pamoja na mambo yote anayowafanya bado watoto wake hawaoni umuhimu wake na kumpa heshima yake kama baba!
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 years and he has helped me raise all three of my kids. My oldest is 15 and my twins are 12 and he taught each of them how to ride their bikes, how to rollerblade, and assisted each of them in building kick-ass volcanos for Science Lab. He listens to all of their problems, goes to all of their games, and buys them frozen yogurt with extra toppings when they lose. He even talked my son through his first little broken heart. He enforces chores, doles out consequences, and is all-too-often the target of the tweenage, hormone-fueled frustrations that rage under our roof. We’re a team. But, nobody thinks of him as “dad.” 
When my kids’ friends come over to our house they ask, “Is that your dad?” and my kids say “No. That’s just Scott.” Invariably, the friend shrugs and gives a confused wave before moving on down the hall towards the XBox. And you know what? I feel a little bad for him every time they do. Not because they should call him Dad – we both agree they shouldn’t. They already have a dad they see on Sundays and for dinner once a week. But after giving up eight years of his own life to be whined at, puked on and giving up his only chance to have his own kids to raise mine (and somebody else’s) with me, he deserves to be recognized as something more than “just Scott.”
It’s hard to be a dad. But it can be even harder to NOT be a dad. To not get the cards on Father’s Day. To not have the children you love and care for think of you as real family, and to let the man who plays a fraction of the role you play in their daily life get the credit and the glory from these kids you’ve successfully and lovingly raised. And it must be heartbreaking. At least a little. Even if they never say it. 
So I want to take a moment and say “thank you” to all of the wonderful boyfriends and step-fathers out there who raise someone else’s children like their own. Who let these children puke on you, cry on you, and scream at you when they’re angry and can’t be consoled. The men who take pride in the child’s achievements, who often have to put their own wants and needs aside, and who are incredible role models to children who would otherwise grow up without a real father figure. You guys may not be fathers, but this is your day too. Thank you for taking one for the team.
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Quote for today!
Nimependa hii picha ya Kiki na baba yake. Naamini sio mimi tu naweza sema kwa mara ya kwanza kumuona baba yake mzazi Kiki. Mara nyingi nimekuwa namuona na mama yake pamoja na ndugu zake wengine. Wanafanana haswa pua. …….Wamependeza sana ? 
QUOTE FOR TODAY!….
“A man’s worth is measured by how he parents his children. What he gives them, what he keeps away from them, the lessons he teaches and the lessons he allows them to learn on their own. Thankfully, there is no measurement great enough to measure the worth of my father.”― Lisa Rogers
“MTOTO ANAFUNDISHWA NYUMBANI.”~~~~~`Zamaradi Mketema
Kwangu mtoto kufanya hivi sio fahari ni Aibu, Hawa ndio aina ya watoto anakuwa anawaza kitu kimoja tu kichwani mwake, Kumridhisha mwanaume, juhudi zake atazielekeza kwenye kutafuta style mpya, bila kusahau vitu mbalimbali vya kupagawisha wanaume. Na wengi wa aina hii bahati mbaya waliowazunguka wanaendelea kuwatengenezea mazingira ya namna hii, wanakuwa wakiamini MAISHA NI MWANAUME TU, na ili uishi nae nguvu yako uilekeze kwenye KITANDA TU. Asilimia kubwa ya maongezi yao yamejaa hayo akiamini ndio UBORA, wanasahaulishwa kabisa kuwa kuna zaidi ya hayo kwenye maisha, wanabaki na mawazo mgando na kubaki kwenye dunia yao ya peke yao, ndio wale utasikia wanamtukana mwanamke mwenzao eti HUJAFUNDWA WEWE!!
Hapondiohuwainachekeshasababukwabahatimbayaufundajimwingiunaangaliasehemumoja tu and am sorry to say wengi WALIOUABUDU wanakuwa na mawazomgando mno yanayopeleke akuachwa na Dunia nyingine. Wadogozangu kitanda ni muhimu lakini haijawahi kuwasehemu KUU pekee ya UKAMILIFU wa mwanamke ama kumshika mwanaume, na kwa ulimwengu wa sasa kama unachojua ni kitanda tu.kunaathari nyingi utakazo kumbananazo hata katika hiyo ndoa unayoiabudu, na hakuna faida yoyote utakayo ipata, maishani zaidi ya kitanda. Mapenzi ni zaidi ya style mpya! Wamama tunaokuja tujitahidi kutotengeneza kizazi cha aina hii, tunaumiza watoto wetu, wanaishia kuwa malosers, washamba, akili ndogo, na hakuna cha maana kwenye maisha yao. Ninachoamini mtoto hafundwi siku moja, wiki moja, wala mwezi mmoja. Mtoto anaanza kufundwa tangu anazaliwa na katika ukuaji wake, MTOTO ANAFUNDISHWA NYUMBANI, Na ndio mafunzo mazuri au mabaya yanapotokea kulingana na imani unayomlisha, mazingira unayomkuza nayo na hata picha unayoionesha.
Hajawahi tabia mbaya alioishi nayo mtoto ndani ya miaka 13 au 14 ikabadilika ndani ya wiki moja za kumuweka ndani, hakuna!! Atawasikiliza tu lakini kama ana asili ya uchoyo ataendelea kuwa mchoyo, kama ana kaumalaya katakua, n.k Tuangalie RIGHT TIME ya kuwafunza hata hayo tulioamua kuwafunza kama ndio kudumisha mila na tamaduni, hakuna ubaya wa kumfunda mtu anaeingia kwenye ndoa lakini hakuna utamu wowote wa kumfunda mtoto wa miaka 12, 13, 14 au 15 ambae hana pa kuyapeleka hayo mafunzo, na hata hao wanaoingia kwenye ndoa kuna haja ya kuwapa LIFE SKILLS na sio kuwashibisha kimoja tu kisichokuwa na faida ya moja kwa moja katika ndoa yake!! Maisha yana changamoto nyingi sana, tusiwatengenezee utumwa wa akili na kuwafunga humo, kwanza angalia hata watoto ama wasichana wengi waliokulia kwenye imani ya kufundwa na kufundana katika hali ya kuabudu walivyo ama wanavyoishi kwenye jamii zao ama ndoa, kama hajaachika basi ana ndoa ya pili au ya tatu, wengi WANASHINDWA KULINDA NDOA ZAO na mpaka sasa nimefeli kujua kwanini!!
Walichokishiba wao ni kimoja tu. Hakuna bingwa wa malezi lakini mengine tunayatengeneza wenyewe, maana hapo utakuta mama yuko pembeni anashangilia na kupiga makofi huku akiona fahari mwanae anavyoyakata, jamani hata ukate mauno mpaka juu ya dari kama kuna vitu huna na hujielewi na kujitambua HAUTATHAMINIKA hata siku moja kwenye ndoa yako, na hao unaowaita wasiofundwa wataishia kukupiga bao tu kwenye maisha. TUAMKE.
Mother and son moment: DONT STOP BECAUSE YOU ARE TIRED, STOP WHEN YOU HAVE ACHIEVED
Awii! Aren’t they cute! The legendary Bosslady Zari Hassan na soldier wake katika ubora wao! Ee Mungu wabariki na uzidi kuwalinda ???……………Embu soma haya maneno matamu ya kutia moyo kwa wakina mama toka kwa mwanamuziki mashuhuli kutoka nchini Kenya ajulikanaye kama Akothee Akothee:
As a mother you have no time to sit & wait , you have no time to compare your present & past , all you have is to sort out the situation at hand , it doesnt matter who is watching just do your thing , dont think of what people think about you , because most of the time people think about their own problems , so why even care about them . Do some justice to yourself , live your life, for the rest are making noise, try drop your children at your friends house for a week & lets see if the next time you call to drop the kids they will answer your call , lets see if you wont be the topic of the group charts on how irrespossible you are , bottom line is , any woman who has had a child has a wondering heart , your heart never settles not unless you have all your children under one roof , I dont know your method of hustling as long as it can pay your bills hold on to it , be proud of what you do , be happy that the children are healthy & that you have something to do ,when you feel tired of your current job , remember how they used to laugh at you when you dint have a job, remember how hard you prayed to God to give you any job , remember how you used to ask for used weaves & borrow people clothes for occasions , be patient , be kind , be gratefull , your day is coming . 
DONT STOP BECAUSE YOU ARE TIRED , STOP WHEN YOU HAVE ACHIEVED #TEAMPOSITIVITY.